1. Acknowledge your emotions.
Holidays are a stressful time for everyone. Just about anything can trigger a stress reaction … at  home and on the job. The first thing that you want to do is acknowledge how you feel. It makes no difference whether you “should” or “shouldn’t” feel what ever emotion you are feeling … just  acknowledge it. Yes … I am frustrated. Yes … I am angry. Yes … I feel that this is your fault. Yes … there are only 24 hours in a day, and I am scheduled for 27 … and that doesn’t even include sleeping! Take a deep breath, acknowledge how you feel, release the emotion, and continue on with your day.  Eventually all of this may seem funny!

2. Do a reality check.
Do a reality check. If you won’t have the time … or the money … to do the perfect family Christmas, sit down and make a list of the things that you can do … the ones that are important to you. Accept that some of the ones that are important to you are ones that you yourself created. Go with what brings you joy, and let the rest go.

3. Watch your finances.
Make a list of everything that is going to have to be paid for … presents (including work related presents), decorations, traveling, food … the figure that you get is the figure that you get! Compare that with what you actually have to spend. Set more reasonable spending limits on the items on your list, and you will guarantee yourself less stress!

4. Plan your time.
Plan your time, so that you are not shopping during the heavy shopping hours, so that you have blocks of time for baking, cooking, wrapping presents and decorating. Expect traffic, expect delays, and go into each day with a promise to be patient.

5. No is an acceptable response!
Learn to say no when what you are being asked to do is perhaps not something that you really want to do, or when you know that you will not have the time to do it properly. This stands for home as well as work!

6. Make time for yourself.
Take short time outs so that you can give yourself back some energy. Tune into your body: are your shoulders tight? Does your stomach feel tense? Do you feel a headache coming on? Stand up, move your head, move your arms and shoulders, take a few deep breaths, and walk around a bit. Feel the tension leaving your body. Smile … life is good!
 
7. Nothing is perfect.
The gift for your boss or co-worker does not have to be perfect … it just has to have thought put into it.  The party for the neighbors does not have to be perfect … it just has to reflect who you are, and what brings you your greatest joy. The dinner does not have to be perfect … it just has to be cooked with love! 

8. Eat healthy.
The holidays are a time when we all tend to eat too much, perhaps drink too much, or perhaps not eat at all, because we are racing around doing everything for everybody! Keep fruit and veggies on hand, cook meals ahead when you know you won’t have time to cook, and pay attention to the signals that your body is giving you.

9. Recognize who your support group is.
We should all have at least a small support group in our life … people that we can talk to when it all goes down the tubes. Perhaps this is one person … a co-worker, friend, or family member. They may need someone to listen to them also … and you can end up laughing at life over a cup of coffee!

10. Depression
The holiday season can bring on depression. If you recognize this, and you cannot handle it on your own, seek professional help. See you physician, or a clergyman, or a licensed counselor of some kind. If you don’t want to talk to someone in person, there are 800 numbers where there are people that will listen to you and help you. One of these numbers is the number for Boy’s Town – 1-800-448-3000.

Make this holiday season a positive experience for everyone!

1. Choose To Be Happy

Yes, happiness is a choice! Accept that you work for the boss from hell … but choose to go into work with a smile on your face. Look for ways to interact with your co-workers in a positive manner. Looks for ways to compliment your boss … make the compliment an honest one, and mean it. When things start to get tough at work … stop, take a deep breath, and count the things that make your job worthwhile (and there are things that make every job worthwhile, even if it is only that you have the money to pay your rent/mortgage!).

2. Be A Professional

Your professional life is in your hands … know this deep within your soul. Look for ways to enhance your professional experiences, to network with new contacts (as well as within your organization), ask your boss for feedback. Develop a game plan … a list of professional goals, with steps on how you intend to reach those goals. Review and update this plan every three months, to keep it fresh.

3. Define A Part Of Your Job That You Enjoy

Break your job down into its parts and pieces, and define something that you really enjoy doing. Bring joy into this part of your day by performing this task consciously … working in the moment, and giving thanks for the pleasure that it brings you.

4. Learn To Network

Networking is not just outside of the office … we network within the organization that we work for also. This is an excellent way to keep up with what is happening at work, with new projects, mergers, job openings … all of the trivia of life that is so very important. Sitting and sulking about not being kept in the loop about something is not the things to do … talk to the appropriate people, and take the actions that you need to take to be a part of the loop, to have a full understanding of your work environment. This will make your work like a whole lot easier!

5. Identify Stress Areas

Saying yes to everything that comes across your desk is one way to literally invite stress to take up residence! Your work time, and your work energy, needs to be devoted to things that you know that you can accomplish within a necessary deadline. Over-committing ourselves can lead to projects not completed; projects completed, but not on time; and our co-workers seeing us as the dumping ground for whatever they do not want to do. An extension of this is that if we take on more than we can possibly complete, we will lose respect with co-workers, and they won’t consider us for projects that could not only be interesting, but that could further our careers.

6. Keep A Positive Outlook

We have all worked with people who had nothing good to say about their job, their co-workers, or the company they are working for.  If you look for negativity, you will find it. If you are constantly looking for negativity, that is all that you will end up finding. Choose to be happy, choose to avoid gossiping, and choose to avoid hanging around with people that are negative. Your time at work will be happier if you are positive, and there is a much better chance that you will be considered for that interesting project, or that lovely promotion, if your supervisors see you as a positive, happy person.

7. Develop A Personal Vision For Your Career

Develop a vision for where you want your career to take you. Do this in a conscious manner. Make sure that your energy, your thoughts, your actions, are focused on furthering this personal vision. This will have an automatic effect of forcing you to pay attention to the important issues at work, so that you will know how to react to them. In this manner you can further your own interests, or, if the imminent changes are not in your favor, you have the time to take care of any perceived collateral damage.

8. Is It Time To Leave?

There comes a time when we realize that the job we are in is not worth it, and we need to start looking elsewhere. This will take a giant burden off of your shoulders, because you recognize that your time with your current company is now limited … limited to the time that it takes you to find another job! Things are not as hard when we can carry an internal smile with us. This is one of the most freeing decisions that we can make.

9. Pay Attention To Work Relationships

This is more than networking … this is being in the present with your work relationships. Listen to what the other person has to say. Give them feedback. Understand what their agenda is, and be supportive of them, so they will be supportive of you. Above all … be genuine.

10. Get Up And Move Around!

Make an effort to stand up at least once an hour, move your shoulders, walk around a bit if you can. The small amount of time that you spend doing this will allow you to get back to your work with a fresh perspective. At the end of the day, you are going home a happier, healthier person because you are not taking the stress that builds up in your body with you.

1. To Get A Second Opinion

When you are facing a life issue, and need to make a decision, you want to be sure that your decision is an informed one. Once you have thought about all of the factors that are involved in the issue you are facing, and have honed down the options that you want to consider in making your decision, a psychic reading can act as a “second opinion”. In this way you will feel stronger about the decision that you have come to, and will not be afraid to act on it.

2. To Help You Focus

We all want to make informed decisions. Sometimes there is so much going on around us that it is hard to determine what is part of an issue, and what is not. For instance, perhaps you are not happy with your job. There are many options here – change to another job within the same company, look for work outside of your current company, change career fields, or even go back to school and train for a different career field (or get an advanced degree that will increase the chances for promotion within your current field).  Your psychic reading will help you define why you are currently unhappy with your job, as well as what each of your options has to offer.

3. To Help Ground A Highly Emotional Issue

No issue in life brings out the emotions like relationship issues do. Your psychic reading will help you to look at the larger picture, to see the issues from the perspective of each of the parties involved, and to help you define what is real, what is illusion, and how it all affects you on a personal level. From there your reader will help you define several different options for dealing with your issues, and take a look at what the benefits (and drawbacks) to each option are.

4. To Connect With A Deceased Family Member Or Friend

Sometimes there are issues that were not resolved in the deceased person’s lifetime, sometimes you may just want to talk to them, or to get their guidance on a personal issue. Your psychic reading will help you make that connection, and bring across any messages that the other person has for you (as well as taking your messages over to them). An added bonus is that you will be taught how to connect with the spirit world on your own, in a very safe, supportive, nurturing manner.

5. To Connect With Your Higher Self

You need a strong connection with your spiritual self, or your Higher Self, to make the best decisions and take the best actions. Your psychic reading will help you make a connection with your Higher Self, and show you how to keep that connection open.

6. To Discover Your Life Purpose

We are all here for a reason. We all have something that we are supposed to accomplish in this physical lifetime. Your psychic reading can help you to determine what that purpose is, and how you can best fulfill it.

7. To Develop A Vision For Your Life

This could also be termed finding direction in life. Sometimes life offers us too many options, and we wander around trying them all out, but never actually following through with any of them. Your psychic reading can help you define your strengths, as well as your weaknesses, and apply that energy to what brings your heart its greatest joy. Your life vision will show you how to be supportive of yourself, how to walk a life path that is fulfilling, brings you joy and abundance, and does so with ease.

8. Interpreting Dreams

Dreamtime is a wonderful tool for bringing resolution to life’s issues. When our conscious mind is at rest, we have the ability to connect with our creative selves with much greater ease. The images and symbols that occur in our dreams are individual to each of us. Your psychic reading can help you understand each of the elements that occur in your dreams, what they mean for you, what issues they are addressing, and how to place these answers in your life.

9. Working With Your Own Psychic Abilities

We each come into this world with psychic abilities. As children, we are often discouraged from discussing our psychic experiences, to the point that we set these abilities aside. They do not disappear, they are only lying dormant. Your psychic reading can help you to understand childhood experiences, define the abilities that are inherent within you, and show you the path to take to develop those abilities within the context of your current life.

10. Wanting To Know The Future

The first thing you need to realize is that your future is not written in stone. You will have certain experiences, but what you choose to do with those experiences is up to you. You have free will, as do those around you. What your psychic reading can do is to show you what will happen if you were to take no action. It will also show you the opportunities that will be coming up for you, and what these opportunities could bring you, should you choose to accept them.

1. Ask for their help.

Spirit Guides come and go in our lives. They are there to guide and help us. If you are experiencing a situation or issues that you need help with, request that a Spirit Guide come to you. Simply hold the thought in your mind that you want help from a Spirit Guide. Your Guide will stay with you until the situation or issue that you are facing has been resolved.

2. Be open to recognizing their presence.

Spirit Guides are, by nature, Spirit, or energy forms. You will not see them as physical presences. Rather, your will sense them, perhaps as a slight movement behind you, or movement out of the corner of your eye. They may even be that random thought that pops into your mind unannounced!

3. Pay attention to your dreams.

Pay attention to dreamtime, and consistently journal the information that you receive. When our conscious minds are effectively “shut down”, it is easier for the Spirit world to come through to us. It is entirely feasible that your answers will come th rough in dreamtime.

4. Converse with your Guide.

Whenever your Guide comes through to you, whether in dreamtime, during meditation, or in the middle of some other activity, greet them politely, and ask them if they have information or questions for you. Be willing to answer their questions – they are asking them for a reason! Thank them when the conversation is over.

5. Channeling

Sit quietly, and calm your mind. See yourself in a beautiful outdoor setting – feast in the colors and scents, the plant and animal life. Place yourself next to a running brook or stream. Hold the situation or issue in your mind that you wish your Spirit Guide to address. Allow your Guide to come to you. The channeling may come through automatic writing, through a conversation that you have and remember, or through the entity speaking through you (which is best to tape).

6. Understand that your Spirit Guide can help you with anything and everything.

Whether you are focused on accomplishing a specific goal, overcoming something that is difficult in your life, or working to manifest abundance, your Spirit Guides are there to help you. You do not walk alone – ask for their help, and they will be there.

7. Work with your Spirit Guides on a regular basis.

Our spirit Guides are here to help us through this physical incarnation. Regular contact and conversation with our Spirit Guides gives us a solid base for making good decisions and taking informed actions in our life. Meditation is an excellent venue to contact your Spirit Guide through.

8. Master Teacher Guide

The one Spirit Guide that remains with us through a lifetime is our Master Teacher Guide. This is the Spirit Guide that we can identify most easily, and the one that inspires us, and helps us to connect with our creative selves.

9. Finding your sense of purpose

Put out the thought that you want to find your purpose in this lifetime, and ask for a Spirit Guide to work with you. The Spirit Guide that appears may well be a Master Teacher Guide.

10. Pay attention to your feelings.

Our feelings are a good barometer of how aligned our emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual selves are. When we are feeling good, feeling secure, we are reflecting the results of the work that we are doing on our life – work that our Spirit Guides are here to help us with.

1. Live In The Present

Living in the past ties us to the past, living in the future keeps us from experiences in the present that allow us to make the informed decisions that shape a future that is aligned with who and what we are. Live in the present, experience the present, learn from the present, embrace the present.

2. Practice Compassionate Living

Practice compassionate living … live from your heart. Learn to listen to other people from your heart, so that you understand and take into consideration their concerns. When you show consideration for other people, your relationships will retain a sense of balance, and happiness will flow easily into and through your life.

3. Accept Responsibility

Accept who you are. Accept your limitations, and accept the areas in which you excel. Use your strengths to help you overcome your weaknesses. Walk your talk. Make sure that your actions are in alignment with your beliefs and your goals.

4. Set Goals

Set realistic goals … goals that are attainable. Each day take small steps towards those goals. Perfection is a state that we are always working towards, not one that we live in.

5. Give Thanks

Start out each day giving thanks for the things that are supportive and nurturing in your life. Focus on the positive will set your thinking in a positive direction, and will allow happiness and joy a place to reside in your life.

6. Set Your Intention

Set your intention to be happy. Accept happiness into your life. You may not be exactly where you want to be, but you are doing the best you can with what you have, and each day is getting better and better. If you look for happiness in your life, you will attract it from multiple sources, and it will be there in abundance.

7. Walk Your Own Path

Make informed decisions, and make them based on where you are on your own path. Release the need to make decisions that please other people. You are the creator of your own life – step up to the challenge.

8. Dream Large

Expand your mental boundaries. Make your dreams as large as they can be. Write down a list of goals that you would like to manifest. Set no limits. You can accomplish any thing that you set out to do as long as you hold the belief that you can do so. The minute you start thinking “I can’t do that”, then you draw that energy in, and you place limits on your happiness.

9. Place Your Intent

Put your energy into manifesting the things that you want to create, rather than into the things that you do not want in your life. Where your focus goes is where your life goes.

10. Balance Your Time

Balance your time between work, home, leisure, and spiritual endeavors. A balanced life ensures the best environment for peace, calm, and joy. Take the time to give back to yourself, to do what brings your heart its greatest joy. This is happiness.

Whether we call them sick days, mental health days, or personal days, what they represent is time off that we need, generally on an immediate basis, to help us keep our sanity. We need to use this time to give back to ourselves. The following are some of the things that we can do to release the overwhelming stress that brought us here.

1. Attitude

Begin this day with the inner knowing that it is your due – that you deserve the time off. How many of us feel guilty for calling in sick when we are not physically sick, but we are mentally and emotionally overwhelmed? We need to give ourselves permission to take the time off, to heal ourselves so that we can go back to work and do our jobs well.

2. Pamper Yourself

Plan your day with care. It may be that staying home and watching the soaps is exactly what you need to do. Or you may decide to clean house and catch up on errands. Or you may want to spend the day at the park, or the beach. Whatever will allow you to relax, to release your concerns, and refuel your energy banks is what you need to do.

3. Work Review

Sometimes it is best to put all thoughts of work, and the origins of your stress, out of your mind on this one day off that you created for yourself. However, there will be times when you need to take action on the cause of you stress. If this is the case, take the time to jot down what has happened, how it has affected you, what are your personal priorities within the situation, and your options for dealing with it. Try to do this early in the day, so that you have a nice block of time later on to do something for yourself, something that brings you joy.

4. Personal Review

Take the time to do an honest assessment of your current situation. Are you happy with your life? Are you happy with your work? Is your stress coming from a sense of unhappiness? What is missing from your life? Are there opportunities for professional growth? Are there opportunities for personal growth? The answers to these questions will help you determine what actions you need to take in your life.

5. Spiritual Review

Where are you spiritually? Is the stress that you are feeling a passing thing, or is it there, to some degree, on a constant basis? Are you at peace with yourself? If not, why not? What is stopping you from living a life of joy? What in your life supports you? What brings you joy? What are you doing out of obligation? Are you living your life according to your beliefs? Are you working towards your goals?  What do you need to do to bring your life back into alignment, so that the “mental health” days are no longer necessary?

6. Do One Thing For Yourself

Do one thing that is just for you. Take your favorite beverage into the back yard and spend some down time admiring the flowers and watching the birds. Spend some time with a favorite book. Watch a favorite movie. Do something supportive for yourself, without thinking of anyone else.

7. Dream

Spend some time developing a dream of what you would like your life to be. What is in your life right now that is not in your dream life? What is in your dream life that is not in your life right now?  These two questions will give you some major clues to the changes that you need to make in your life.

8. Learn One New Thing

Take the time to read and article, to talk to a friend, or to work on a new project. Learn one new idea or skill that will enhance your life.

9. Developing Your Awareness

Take this day off to spend some time developing your awareness of the people and issues surrounding you.  Think about whatever people or issues are overwhelming you. How do you feel about them? What is your reaction to them? What specific things are pushing your buttons? As you develop your awareness to your environment, and the people in it, you give yourself the space to think before acting/reacting. You stay centered and grounded, and your words and actions are in alignment with your ideals and goals.

10. Make A Plan

Are you going to just go back to work and hope that whatever issue or situation that overwhelmed you is going to go away? The peace that you worked so hard to attain one day made well be lost the moment that you return to work if your attitude is that “things will take care of themselves”. You need to make a plan. What changes that are within your power to make will make the situation more tolerable for you? Even if the ultimate solution is to change jobs, an empowering intermediate solution is to take control of what you can take control of.

Enjoy your day off – and make it work for you!

1. Acknowledgment

The first step in developing your psychic ability (which we all have) is to acknowledge that the ability exists. Take the time to research the subject – read articles, read biographies, read all that you can, and see how many of the experiences that you are reading about have happened to you. When we take the time to look, we see just how often our psychic ability does show up in our daily lives, without our even knowing it.

2. Practice

As with all things, we connect and “grow” our psychic ability through practice. Set aside time to practice. Make sure the environment is quiet, and that you will not be disturbed. Play soothing music in the background to help quiet your mind. Picture a tranquil scene in your mind – sitting beside a stream, walking through a meadow, whatever represents a quiet “getaway” to you. Make this picture as strong as you can, and return to it each time that you practice. Once in your getaway, allow thoughts to come to you. At the end of the session (which can be as long, or short, as you wish it to be), note in a journal the thoughts that you remember (you may not remember all of them).

3. Concentration

When a random thought comes to you, focus on it. Information is being brought to you for a reason. Don’t worry about why it is being brought to you, simply acknowledge what you are hearing. It will become apparent if this is something you are to act on, or to share with a specific person (or people).

4. Energy Scanning

This is an exercise that you do with a friend. Stand approximately four feet apart, with your eyes closed. Take several deep breaths to ground yourselves. With your mental eye, see the other person as pure energy. Note the colors and patterns that you see, note any words, numbers, or symbols that seem to be floating around in this energy. After a minute or two, both people come back to consciousness, and share their findings with each other.

5. Prediction

The art of prediction is one way of telling whether you have been able to strengthen your psychic ability or not. It is very simple: when the phone rings, take a moment to focus on the phone, and the person calling. Literally – see if you can tell who is calling before you pick up the phone. When you enter a room, take the room’s “temperature”. Is there a sense of tenseness? Are the people in the room happy? When you encounter other people, focus closely on them for a moment. Do they seem happy? Do they seem sad? Are they nervous? Try this in different situations – the more you work with it, the easier it will be to allow thoughts to flow through you.

6. Sensing Through Objects

Start with objects that belong to people that you know. The reason for this is that they will be able to verify any thoughts or feelings that come to you while you are holding the object. Hold the object in your hands, and make note of any visions that you see, of any thoughts that come to you, of any emotions that you feel, of any scents that you smell – the object that you are holding carries a history of vibrations within it, and they are available to you. Take a few minutes, and then share whatever you experienced with the person that the object belongs to so that they can verify your impressions.

7. Acknowledging Premonitions

Each of us at times has visions, or premonitions, of things in our mind that have not actually happened yet. We are picking up thoughts that are out there in the universe – what we don’t realize at the time is that this represents an opening up of our psychic senses. Jotting these types of premonitions down in a journal is helpful. In this way, we can see if the come true, and in what way they come true. As we place our focus on them, we have a better chance of understanding them.

8. Accepting Your Ability

Each time you have a psychic experience, note it down, and have it verified by the events actually happening, you are verifying your ability to access your psychic nature.  As you come to accept and trust your ability, your confidence will grow, and your ability will grow.

9. Impressions

Before you begin your day, take a moment to quiet your mind. Then ask yourself what you will encounter in this day, and whom you will encounter. Accept all impressions, so not limit them with logic. At the end of your day, revisit this list, and see how much of this actually came to pass.

10. Meditation

Take time each day – even as little as ten minutes – and meditate. This does not have to be complicated – simply find a quiet place, and start following your breath. As conscious thoughts come to you, acknowledge and release them. Breathe deeply, and connect with yourself in the present moment. This gives you access to your unconscious self, and grounds and centers you.

1. Define Yourself

Understand what strengths you bring to a relationship. Take out a piece of paper, and write them down. Do you communicate well? Are you well organized? Do you have a sense of humor? Are you a good listener? Have you defined your own personal sacred boundaries? Do you know where you want to be three months, six months, and one year from now? Are you career oriented? Are you family oriented? What place do you see children holding in your life? What do you need from a relationship?

2. Define Your Partner

Write down the qualities that you need in a partner. What do they look like physically? What is their emotional makeup?  What is their spiritual makeup? Should they have a sense of humor? How do they view their finances? How do they feel about children? Are they career oriented? Are they family oriented?

3. Visualize Your Perfect Relationship

Before you go to bed at night, spend 5-10 minutes seeing yourself interacting with your perfect partner. What are you doing together? How do they make you feel? Are you happy? Are you anxious? What you are doing here is sending a message out to universe that you are open to relationship, and that this is the type of relationship that you would like to draw to you.

4. Be Aware

Listen to your intuition. Be aware of the opportunities for meeting people around you. Be open to other people, and present yourself as you are, not as how you want others to see you. Go back and reread your definition of who you are as a person. Walk the talk of who that person is, because they have a great deal to offer a potential date!

5. Establishing A Personal Connection

Okay, you have met someone that you might be interested in. How can you establish a connection with that person, a sense of rapport that will carry you forward? Listen with compassion. Listen with your heart, listen with caring, and make the other person feel as if they matter. Show respect for them, and encourage give and take in your relationship with them. You do not always have to agree with the other person … just show respect for their opinion.

6. Recognizing Feelings

How do you know how you really feel about someone? Is it infatuation, or is it true love? Infatuation is all about the externals. Ask yourself how you would feel about this person if they had nothing … if all they had to offer you was themselves. Would you still want them in your life? If your answer is yes, then the feeling that you have for them is coming from your heart, and is true love. If what they are without any external trappings is not enough, then more than likely you are infatuated, and the relationship will not last.

7. Building Trust

Act in a manner that encourages people to trust you. Make specific, rather than vague, statements. Let the other person know when something is going on in your life. If you need space, let them know why. Don’t make life a guessing game.

8. Walk Your Talk

Make sure that your physical actions match your verbal communications. It doesn’t matter how populated an area you live in, whatever you are trying to hide will come back to haunt you. Taken one step further – be aware of your tone, eye contact, and body language – these should all match the message that you are trying to send.

9. Define Your Perfect Life

Just as you defined your perfect partner, write down how your life would be if your perfect partner were there. What would your goals be? How would you be spending your time? What activities would you be involved in? How would you feel about yourself?

10. Let Your Needs Be Known

Allow the other person to know who you are, and what makes you tick. This is the number one way to build trust in a relationship. Encourage the other person to make their needs known. In doing so, you validate them as an individual. Recognize that there are three “people” in every relationship – you, your partner, and the energy of the two of you together.

1. Positive Thinking

Like attracts like. If you focus on negative thoughts, then you will draw negativity into your life. If your focus is consciously on positive thoughts, then you will draw positive people and situations to you. Bottom line – you draw to you that which your thoughts are focused on! Once you start focusing on your positive thoughts, you will become empowered, and will find yourself easily able to manifest the future of your dreams.

2. Becoming clear on what you want.

If you are not focused on what you want to manifest in your life, then your life will become a fuzzy picture. Your life will reflect your unfocused thinking. You will manifest “some of this”, and “some of that”, but not all of anything. Look at what you are currently experiencing in your life. What are some of the common themes? Which experiences are supporting you? Which experiences are repeating past patterns, and not being supportive? Where are your supportive experiences taking you? Make sure that your focus, and your effort, is placed behind a well defined goal.

3. Visualizing your goal.

Once you have defined your goal, take the time to visualize it on a daily basis. Note your reaction to your visualizations. Are you able to accomplish them easily? Can you see yourself accomplishing your goal? Do you know how accomplishing your goal would change your life? If you are not comfortable visualizing your goal, you may need to either tweak it in some way, or recognize that it simply isn’t right for you and define a goal that is closer to whatever supports your greatest joy.

4. Take Action

Once you can comfortably visualize your goal, take action on it. Take one small step that will bring you closer to your goal each day. As your confidence builds, take larger steps. By taking action, you are sending the thought out to Universe that this is what you would like to manifest into your life.

5. Accept Success

Once you have defined your goal, visualized it, and taken action steps to manifest it, allow it to come into your life. Don’t allow the negative self-speak, the “I don’t deserve this” to enter into play. Tell yourself that you manifested your goal through your own efforts, and that you deserve it! Allow your goal to come to you in whatever way Universe sees fit. Simply hold the thought that it will come to you. Expect your goals to manifest!

6. Release Your Fears

Whenever we attempt to bring change into our lives, we access our shadow side, that side of us that experiences fears and limitations. How can we release these fears? The first step is in acknowledging them. Understand what they are, and where they are coming from. Generally speaking, the negative self-speak is coming from experiences when we were overwhelmed by people or issues, or it comes, literally from other people in our lives, and from their expectations. Understand the messages that you are hearing, identify where they are coming from, and release them with love. Tell yourself “This is not true. What is true is …..”

7. Accept Responsibility

Accept responsibility for whatever is manifesting in your life. Know that your own thoughts, your intent and focusing, are creating your own reality. When you accept responsibility for creating your own reality, you gift yourself with the power to change that reality. You will be able to release the thoughts that are bringing negative things into your life, and focus on new thoughts that will help you manifest your goals.

8. Manifesting Abundance

Do not be afraid to manifest abundance! The Law of Attraction can certainly be used to focus on creating abundance, in whatever form you see it. One person may consider abundance to be joy, happiness, and a close connection with the people and things in their environment. Another person may be at a place in their live when they think of abundance in terms of financial gain. Using the Law of Attraction as a tool of manifestation for abundance will open up your life to more than you ever hoped for!

9. Energy

Thinking positively is the first step in the Law of Attraction. But it will not help you in more than a small way unless you place energy behind those thoughts. Place your focus, and your intent, and back them up with action steps, however small.

10. Dream Large!

Do not place limitations on your goals when you define them. Do not place limitations on yourself when you visualize those goals. See them coming to you in infinite ways. Identify your goals, place focus and intent behind them, and allow them to come to you. See your life as large as you can make it, and know in your heart and soul that you deserve that life.

1. The primary function of your psychic reading is to empower you!

Whether you are calling to get a second opinion, or to work with your reader to access inner wisdom, the answers that you receive will empower you. You will be better able to see all sides of an issue, to make informed decisions and take informed actions.

2. You will leave your reading with tools that you can put to use in your everyday life.

It is one thing to be able to discuss your issues with a knowledgeable person, but it is quite another when they gift you with tools of empowerment to place into your life. This is very much along the lines of the difference between giving a hungry person a loaf of bread, or showing them how to plant a field of grain. The first experience is temporary, and they will be hungry again soon. The second experience allows them to grow the grain that will ensure that they can bake their own bread, and continue to feed themselves and their families. the tools that your reader gifts you with will empower your life.

3. You will begin to understand how your past has affected your present, and what you need to do to affect your future in a positive manner.

Looking into the past of an issue shows you the roots of the current issue, and may show where a pattern has developed. If there is a pattern, and it is not a positive one, then understanding where it came from is the key to resolving and releasing it. Once the pattern has been resolved and released, you can make informed decisions and take informed actions on bringing in the future that you desire.

4. You are an active participant in your reading.

When you are ready to ask for a psychic reading, come with questions in your mind about the issues surrounding you. It is a combination of the questions that are asked, and the wisdom that is channeled through the reader, that make the answers beneficial to you.  Interacting with your reader during your reading firmly places your focus, and your intent, upon the issues being looked at. How things are in relation to you is what ultimately matters.

5. Your psychic reading will open up your ability to confidently make choices in your life. 

Making choices, whether the choices involve family, career, relationship, or some other issue, can be quite a difficult process. One of the reasons for this is that if we are not able to see ourselves in a good light, we may not make the best decisions because we do not believe, in our hearts, that we deserve the best in life. Your psychic reading will help you to identify your strengths, identify and resolve/release issues from the past, clearly see all of the options available to you, and make decisions from a position of person strength and empowerment.

6. Your psychic reader has the ability to help you access your guides.

We all come into this lifetime with guides assigned to us - some are there for a lifetime, some are there for specific periods of time, and some are there for specific issues. Your reader will help you identify them, why they are with you, and how you can best communicate with them.

7. Your psychic reading acts as a mirror for the issues in your life - a snapshot of your life as it stands at the point that you are having your reading.

Our lives are not static - they are filled with movement and vibration. Your reading will reflect the issues and people that you are dealing with at the time of your reading. From there, you can look into the past to see how the current situation(s) in your life developed, and you can see what your options are for developing the future that you want to draw to you. Your reading will affirm you as a co-creator in your own life!

8. The information that you receive is something that you will be able to place actively into your life.

Your reading is very specific to you, and to your life situations. The answers that you receive will give you insight into the issues surrounding you, and allow you to see all of your options, make informed decisions, and take informed actions.

9. Your psychic reading can act as a spiritual guide.

How your reading helps you depends on the questions that you ask.  The more focused the questions, the more focused your answers will be. If you have questions about your spirituality, about the path that you are on, use them as the basis for your reading. The answers that you receive will act as guideposts for furthering your spiritual growth.

10. Your psychic reader practices what is termed compassionate listening.

They listen with their hearts, as well as with their ears. They are listening to your story, while at the same time feeling the emotions surrounding it. This allows them to intuit the question(s) that you may really want to address, but may be afraid to. Compassionate listening on the part of your reader will help them to activate healing within you, the Seeker.

1. Doing The Little Things

After two people have been together for a period of time, they can tend to take each other for granted. The first step towards bringing romance back into your relationship is to find little ways to tell the other person that you love them. A hug here, a kiss there, an unexpected note left on a pillow, and taking the time to say the magic words “I love you” when the other person least expects it.

2. Bring The Passion Back

Bringing the passion back into a relationship takes a conscious effort. Schedule time to be together – whether you have a candle-lit dinner, or a picnic in the middle of the living room. Burn scented candles, take a bubble bath together, give each other a massage with scented oils, watch an erotic movie … do whatever leaves the sameness of daily life behind and connects you as a couple to your five senses.

3. Be Creative

Sometimes a single flower can say more than a dozen roses. Sometimes a ticket to a ball game can mean more than a night out on the town. Take the time to find out what your partner considers romantic – and recognize that this may not be the same thing that you consider romantic. Giving your partner their own private time can encourage romance – because they will know that you have made an effort to take their needs into consideration. The keyword here – compromise!

4. Quality Time

It is not the amount of time that you spend together, it is the quality of that time that matters. This is your time to connect – whether it is quiet time over morning coffee, or thirty minutes just before going to bed at night, the idea is to focus on each other. To listen to the other person, to share your successes and your concerns, and to let the other person know that you care about them. Make a conscious resolution to make time for romance!

5. Compromise

Compromise does not necessarily mean that we are giving up anything. Each partner will have their own interests, and should be allowed time to pursue those interests. However, time also need to be set aside for the pursuit of common interests, time that can be spent together. You may have more interests in common than you think. Do you both like wine? The going to a wine tasting class might be an exciting shared experience – as well as leading to a romantic interlude later! Other shared interests might include cooking, sports, dancing … anything that you both enjoy doing, and that will bring you closer.

6. Touch

A very simple concept – touch! Here we are looking at what might be termed “touch with intent”, or “focused touch”.  A kiss on the cheek is nice – but a true kiss sends the message that you a truly drawn to that person, that they are appealing to you. A quick hug is nice – but a long, hearty hug sends the message that you are attracted to that person, that you feel safe within their space, and that you want to be with them.

7. Children

It is very important to arrange “couples time”, time without the children, when the focus is on each other. This can be a regular “night out”, or time specially arranged to celebrate a birthday, a promotion, or some other significant event. This is time to enjoy each other, and reconnect both the passion and the soul in your relationship.

8. Future Vision

It is very easy to get caught up in the day to day responsibilities of life. It is important to take the time to really take a look at what kind of life you are creating. To keep the romance in your life, keep the energy of your relationship moving at high levels. Take the time to talk at regular intervals about what each of you want on a personal level, and what you want for yourselves as a couple. The future that you will have is the one that you create for yourself. Sharing your dreams and goals for the future will help strengthen the bond between the two of you.

9. Taking Care Of Yourself

Your own self image has a lot to do with how you approach romance with your partner. Watch your diet, eat healthy, and encourage your partner to do the same. Take the time to exercise, in whatever form you are most comfortable with (sports, dancing, working out in the gym – these are all good forms of exercise). You will feel good about yourself, and you will release pent up stress from your muscles. A parting thought – dress for romance! Dress in a manner that is appealing to your partner. For some people that might be heels and a beautiful dress, for others it might be jeans and a comfortable top. Compliment your partner when they wear something that ignites thoughts of romance in you. You may well find romance working itself into your life more and more!

10. Bedroom

The environment of your bedroom should feel comfortable for both partners – and it should be TV free! You do not need the TV as a third party in your relationship. The TV in a very real way takes your partners attention away from you – and takes your attention away from them! Your bedroom should reflect calmness and serenity. It should be a safe haven from the world, for both of you. Scented candles, soft colors, sensual textures – these will go a long way to encouraging romance in your relationship.