February 14th is Valentine’s Day … a day filled with chocolates, flowers, beautiful cards, dinner for two … what more could one ask for! A little less stress, perhaps? Valentine’s Day is all about Love and Romance, with a capitol “L” and a capitol “R”! It is also about our expectations … expectations that we have about ourselves, and about the significant other in our life.

Emotions run rampant on this day … the ads are out there to “Remember to buy her flowers!”, to “Give her the best chocolates in the world!”, to “Make reservations for a (very expensive!) dinner for two!” and, on your way to pick her up, “Stop by the snazziest jewelers around and pick her up a significant trinket!” No pressure here, eh!

There is a different kind of pressure in relationships that are just starting … or are just about to start. “Will he bring me flowers?” “Will he bring me candy?” “Will he take me out to dinner?” And the ultimate “Will he even show up!”

What can we do to make Valentine’s Day less stressful, more joyful, and a true celebration of the love that we have for one another? Stop, take a deep breath, and remember that Valentine’s Day is all about celebrating love. Candy is nice. Flowers are nice. Dinner is nice. A small gift is nice. But this is really the commercial aspect of life. Where is the love?

One way of defining love is that you care enough for someone to put their needs before your own. How this reflects on Valentine’s Day is that you are looking for ways to show the other person how much they mean to you, rather than stressing out about what they are going to do, or not do, for you. So whether it is dinner reservations at their favorite restaurant, or a special dinner for two at home, the focus is on the preference of the other person. If you are giving them a gift … whether it be candy, flowers, jewelry, or something else that they would appreciate, make sure that it is just that … something that they will appreciate!

A walk in a park, or along an ocean shore, means more than any fancy plans that you could come up with. If you can, revisit the place where you met, or where you had your first date. Have the same meal that you had then. Make your partner feel treasured, and they will do the same for you!

If there is no “significant other” in your life, then make the choice to be good to yourself. Treat yourself as you would have another person treat you. Honor yourself … do whatever gives you your greatest joy … which may mean nachos and a good movie watched at home!

However you choose to celebrate this very special day, show your love with an open heart. Release any expectations, and you will find that what comes to you is much greater than anything that you have ever dreamt of!

Put the joy back in your holiday!
Whatever holiday you are celebrating … whether it is Christmas, Hanukah, Kwanzaa, or some other holiday, this time of year is a time for giving thanks, for renewal, and for the celebrations of life. Over the years, it has become so commercialized that finding the right gift, the best decorations, and setting the perfect table have overshadowed the true meaning (and traditions) of the holidays.

We tend to feel stress, rather than joy. There is too much to do, and not enough time (or money) to do it in. How can we realign ourselves with the joy and peace that is at the heart of the holiday season? We might start by listing the things that are truly important to us.

Life’s real priorities.
In this age of instant communications, we can become so overwhelmed with information that we lost track of the truly important things in life. Would your list look something like this?

• Home
• Family
• Friends
• Community
• Health
• Faith
• Means of Livelihood
• The Ability To Help Others

Holiday Traditions.
Traditions for this holiday season revolve around family and community. It is the small things that we do, rather than the big, expensive gifts that make a difference. This is a time for creating memories. Involve the entire family in choosing and putting up holiday decorations. Share with your children holiday memories from your youth, and family stories.

Put love into your baking and cooking. Allow (and encourage!) others to help you. Bake and cook on the basis of what you have time for, and what is important to your family. Create new traditions … things that are meaningful to you, and that blend the old and the new.

Community Outreach.
Remember that your community acts as extended family … they are the “village” that you live in. During the holiday season, take time to give back to your community. Consciously choose to do so in a manner that brings you and your family joy.  You may choose to “adopt” a family for the holidays, making sure that they know that they are cared about … that someone will make sure that they have food, and that someone does care that a gift or two is under their tree (and that they have a tree, if that is their tradition).

You may work through your church or synagogue, or you may choose to do this on your own. You may wish to donate money, which allows others to feed and cloth those who need help. You may wish to shovel the sidewalk for a neighbor, take them to see the holiday lights, or invite them over for a meal. You may wish to write a service person serving overseas, just to let them know that you care.

Conscious Living.
Choose to live this holiday in a conscious manner. Make whatever you choose to do important to you and your family. Find true meaning and joy in your traditions (and consciously leave behind those traditions that are not serving you well). You may find that in putting the joy back into your holidays, that “less is more”.

If you want someone to talk to, someone that can help you define your holiday season, our readers aer available 24/7.

Wishing you the best of holidays!

Stable, nurturing relationships are an important ingredient in every individual’s life. When we find them, we value them. Sometimes good relationships go wrong, and a good deal of the time the individuals involved are relatively clueless as to why this is happening. A good relationship that develops problems can sometimes be worse that an “okay” relationship that goes through the same level of problems. Why? Because the individuals involved in the good relationship never saw it coming!

Did we just “think” that our relationship was a good one? Were we wearing blinders? Does it have to be over? Sometimes we are wearing blinders … we see what we want to see. Sometimes the relationship really is good, but there may be certain areas that one or both parties will not talk about, and these end up being trigger points for conflict.

Your psychic reading looks at the strengths (and weaknesses) of both individuals involved. It will help you see what each party brings to relationship, and what each party needs from relationship. It will also look at any “agendas” that either party brought into the relationship. Were you looking for someone to take care of you, and your partner really wanted someone that was a little more independent? Do you want your independence, and they want children? Is there an unspoken agenda about finances and spending?

Once defined, areas of conflict can be looked at with fresh eyes, and options for resolution developed. Sometimes a good relationship gone wrong can be saved with a little effort, and sometimes you have to walk away, taking the lesson that you learned with you.

Many people experience a continual search for “true love” in their life. What is this “true love”, and what is it supposed to bring us? True love is unconditional love. We love, with no expectation of anything in return. Someone loves us, with no expectation of anything in return. There is ultimate trust, and we feel no sense of anxiety, jealousy. True love allows us to forgive … and to be forgiven. With true love, we have no fears.

With true love, there is no need to judge ourselves, or to judge someone else. We accept other people for who they are, and they accept us for who we are. True love is a pure form of giving, and is its own reward.

How do we recognize true love in our own relationships? Is someone in your life trying to change you? This is not true love. In true love, we do not attempt to change others, and they do to attempt to change us. When we experience true love, we feel free of the expectations of others. True love is experienced through the heart, not through the mind. True love is a reflection of our basic nature.

Put the magic back in your life! Experience true love, beginning with accepting and loving yourself. True love is not meant to make you a better person, nor is it meant to complete you. We are all complete exactly as we are! True love is meant to compliment us, to allow us to experience freedom and joy, and to allow us to view the world as we would like to be viewed.

True love comes from who we are as individuals. It is an extension of our acceptance for ourselves that allows us to accept others for who they are. It allows us to experience peace in our lives, and to celebrate the success of others with as much enthusiasm as we celebrate our own successes.

Open your heart to true love!

A psychic reading that is relationship based can, quite literally, open up new worlds! The very first thing that your reader will do is to take a look at you – your current situation, how you got there, and what your options are. They will also give you a probable picture of the future – what would be there should you opt to take no action.

A big part of your reading will be based around you – your strengths, your weaknesses, your skills and abilities, what you bring to relationship, and what you need from relationship. How do you view relationship? Are your glasses rose colored? Are you able to create your own sacred space? Are you seeing the big picture? Are you giving your power away? Do you even acknowledge that you have power in a relationship?

Your reader will also look at the other person in the relationship – whether this is a business relationship, a friendship, or a romantic relationship. They will look at their strengths, weaknesses, skills and abilities, at what they bring to a relationship, and at what they need from a relationship.

Your psychic reading will help you to define what you want from a specific relationship, whether it will be possible to get what you want, and, if the answer is yes, to define the best way to go about setting down the foundations for a supportive, nurturing relationship.

Your reader will help you to see what the current potential is for your relationship, as well as the future potential. They will help you to identify any obstacles, and find ways to resolve or remove them.

Your relationship reading will gift you with the confidence to understand your relationship, open your heart to all the possibility that is there, and take any actions that are needed to make is strong and supportive.

Our readers are available 24/7 to help you with your relationship issues, and to empower you so that your choices support and nurture who you really are!

Every relationship brings to it the wants and needs (and agenda’s!) of both parties. At any given moment, we are each trying to balance any number of relationships – familial, romantic, friendship, business – and sometimes this all becomes a bit overwhelming! What are we all basically looking for in relationship? Harmony – that sense of peace that allows us to function at our best, to stay grounded and centered, to make informed decisions and take positive, supportive actions.

Every relationship needs to have a level of commitment, as well as a room for both individuals to row as individuals. Each person needs to have a sense of respect for themselves, as well as for the other person. Effort needs to be placed on maintaining a high level of communication – referring to the quality of the communication, rather than the quantity! Make sure that you understand what the other person is trying to say, and that they understand what you are trying to say.

Listen with compassion – listen with your heart. Listen to the words being spoken – as well as the words not being spoken.  Try to place yourself in the other person’s shoes, and see the issue from their perspective.

Be grateful for that which is supportive in the relationship, and let the other person know that. Define that which is not supportive, and work with the other person to either release it, or redefine it. Do not allow emotions from past disagreements, or actions, act as clutter in the relationship in its present form. Remain grounded and centered in the present.

Look at where you are expending time and energy in your relationship. Are you spinning your wheels? Are you not sure where you stand? Your time and energy needs to go to whatever is supportive of yourself, and your relationship. Relationships need to grow as the individuals within them grow. Find common interests, and spend some time together on them. Be willing to spend time with the other person on what interests them, and ask the same of them for what interests you.

Focus on that which is positive and supportive in your relationship. Identify that which needs work, and address it. Bring in the tool of compassion to heal and grow. Expect the best, and do not settle for less. Hold in your mind a visualization of what your relationship can be, and focus your intent on taking it there. Be a co-creator of your own relationship life!

Have you ever felt like you were just not being listened to? Annoying, to say the least! Sometimes, with our significant others, we simply cannot seem to get our ideas across, make our positions known, or talk out some kind of resolution to issues that we are having with them.

We have to take responsibility for our part of the conversation, meaning that we have to choose a time when both parties are ready to talk, and we need to stay on the subject (and not allow our significant other to drift off topic!). We need to phrase our conversation in a positive manner, so that the other party will not feel threatened and turn defensive.

Have your conversation with the person – do not talk down to them. Make sure that they feel safe in the environment that you have chosen to have the conversation in. If they chose the environment, make sure that you feel safe in it. Be clear about what you want to discuss. If the conversation starts to get out of hand – end it, leaving if you have to.

Listen closely to what your significant other is saying, and note their body language. Make sure that their body language matches their words, or the intent is not there. If you are not sure what your significant other has just said, repeat back to them what you think you heard. Allow them to explain their point of view.

Remember – you do not have to answer a question or make a decision if you do not feel prepared to do so. Let your significant other know that you will think about what they said, and get back to them.

Remember – successful conversations are based on clear intention, listening with intent and compassion, and making a significant attempt to see t he other person’s point of view.

1. Define Yourself

Understand what strengths you bring to a relationship. Take out a piece of paper, and write them down. Do you communicate well? Are you well organized? Do you have a sense of humor? Are you a good listener? Have you defined your own personal sacred boundaries? Do you know where you want to be three months, six months, and one year from now? Are you career oriented? Are you family oriented? What place do you see children holding in your life? What do you need from a relationship?

2. Define Your Partner

Write down the qualities that you need in a partner. What do they look like physically? What is their emotional makeup?  What is their spiritual makeup? Should they have a sense of humor? How do they view their finances? How do they feel about children? Are they career oriented? Are they family oriented?

3. Visualize Your Perfect Relationship

Before you go to bed at night, spend 5-10 minutes seeing yourself interacting with your perfect partner. What are you doing together? How do they make you feel? Are you happy? Are you anxious? What you are doing here is sending a message out to universe that you are open to relationship, and that this is the type of relationship that you would like to draw to you.

4. Be Aware

Listen to your intuition. Be aware of the opportunities for meeting people around you. Be open to other people, and present yourself as you are, not as how you want others to see you. Go back and reread your definition of who you are as a person. Walk the talk of who that person is, because they have a great deal to offer a potential date!

5. Establishing A Personal Connection

Okay, you have met someone that you might be interested in. How can you establish a connection with that person, a sense of rapport that will carry you forward? Listen with compassion. Listen with your heart, listen with caring, and make the other person feel as if they matter. Show respect for them, and encourage give and take in your relationship with them. You do not always have to agree with the other person … just show respect for their opinion.

6. Recognizing Feelings

How do you know how you really feel about someone? Is it infatuation, or is it true love? Infatuation is all about the externals. Ask yourself how you would feel about this person if they had nothing … if all they had to offer you was themselves. Would you still want them in your life? If your answer is yes, then the feeling that you have for them is coming from your heart, and is true love. If what they are without any external trappings is not enough, then more than likely you are infatuated, and the relationship will not last.

7. Building Trust

Act in a manner that encourages people to trust you. Make specific, rather than vague, statements. Let the other person know when something is going on in your life. If you need space, let them know why. Don’t make life a guessing game.

8. Walk Your Talk

Make sure that your physical actions match your verbal communications. It doesn’t matter how populated an area you live in, whatever you are trying to hide will come back to haunt you. Taken one step further – be aware of your tone, eye contact, and body language – these should all match the message that you are trying to send.

9. Define Your Perfect Life

Just as you defined your perfect partner, write down how your life would be if your perfect partner were there. What would your goals be? How would you be spending your time? What activities would you be involved in? How would you feel about yourself?

10. Let Your Needs Be Known

Allow the other person to know who you are, and what makes you tick. This is the number one way to build trust in a relationship. Encourage the other person to make their needs known. In doing so, you validate them as an individual. Recognize that there are three “people” in every relationship – you, your partner, and the energy of the two of you together.

1. Positive Thinking

Like attracts like. If you focus on negative thoughts, then you will draw negativity into your life. If your focus is consciously on positive thoughts, then you will draw positive people and situations to you. Bottom line – you draw to you that which your thoughts are focused on! Once you start focusing on your positive thoughts, you will become empowered, and will find yourself easily able to manifest the future of your dreams.

2. Becoming clear on what you want.

If you are not focused on what you want to manifest in your life, then your life will become a fuzzy picture. Your life will reflect your unfocused thinking. You will manifest “some of this”, and “some of that”, but not all of anything. Look at what you are currently experiencing in your life. What are some of the common themes? Which experiences are supporting you? Which experiences are repeating past patterns, and not being supportive? Where are your supportive experiences taking you? Make sure that your focus, and your effort, is placed behind a well defined goal.

3. Visualizing your goal.

Once you have defined your goal, take the time to visualize it on a daily basis. Note your reaction to your visualizations. Are you able to accomplish them easily? Can you see yourself accomplishing your goal? Do you know how accomplishing your goal would change your life? If you are not comfortable visualizing your goal, you may need to either tweak it in some way, or recognize that it simply isn’t right for you and define a goal that is closer to whatever supports your greatest joy.

4. Take Action

Once you can comfortably visualize your goal, take action on it. Take one small step that will bring you closer to your goal each day. As your confidence builds, take larger steps. By taking action, you are sending the thought out to Universe that this is what you would like to manifest into your life.

5. Accept Success

Once you have defined your goal, visualized it, and taken action steps to manifest it, allow it to come into your life. Don’t allow the negative self-speak, the “I don’t deserve this” to enter into play. Tell yourself that you manifested your goal through your own efforts, and that you deserve it! Allow your goal to come to you in whatever way Universe sees fit. Simply hold the thought that it will come to you. Expect your goals to manifest!

6. Release Your Fears

Whenever we attempt to bring change into our lives, we access our shadow side, that side of us that experiences fears and limitations. How can we release these fears? The first step is in acknowledging them. Understand what they are, and where they are coming from. Generally speaking, the negative self-speak is coming from experiences when we were overwhelmed by people or issues, or it comes, literally from other people in our lives, and from their expectations. Understand the messages that you are hearing, identify where they are coming from, and release them with love. Tell yourself “This is not true. What is true is …..”

7. Accept Responsibility

Accept responsibility for whatever is manifesting in your life. Know that your own thoughts, your intent and focusing, are creating your own reality. When you accept responsibility for creating your own reality, you gift yourself with the power to change that reality. You will be able to release the thoughts that are bringing negative things into your life, and focus on new thoughts that will help you manifest your goals.

8. Manifesting Abundance

Do not be afraid to manifest abundance! The Law of Attraction can certainly be used to focus on creating abundance, in whatever form you see it. One person may consider abundance to be joy, happiness, and a close connection with the people and things in their environment. Another person may be at a place in their live when they think of abundance in terms of financial gain. Using the Law of Attraction as a tool of manifestation for abundance will open up your life to more than you ever hoped for!

9. Energy

Thinking positively is the first step in the Law of Attraction. But it will not help you in more than a small way unless you place energy behind those thoughts. Place your focus, and your intent, and back them up with action steps, however small.

10. Dream Large!

Do not place limitations on your goals when you define them. Do not place limitations on yourself when you visualize those goals. See them coming to you in infinite ways. Identify your goals, place focus and intent behind them, and allow them to come to you. See your life as large as you can make it, and know in your heart and soul that you deserve that life.

1. Doing The Little Things

After two people have been together for a period of time, they can tend to take each other for granted. The first step towards bringing romance back into your relationship is to find little ways to tell the other person that you love them. A hug here, a kiss there, an unexpected note left on a pillow, and taking the time to say the magic words “I love you” when the other person least expects it.

2. Bring The Passion Back

Bringing the passion back into a relationship takes a conscious effort. Schedule time to be together – whether you have a candle-lit dinner, or a picnic in the middle of the living room. Burn scented candles, take a bubble bath together, give each other a massage with scented oils, watch an erotic movie … do whatever leaves the sameness of daily life behind and connects you as a couple to your five senses.

3. Be Creative

Sometimes a single flower can say more than a dozen roses. Sometimes a ticket to a ball game can mean more than a night out on the town. Take the time to find out what your partner considers romantic – and recognize that this may not be the same thing that you consider romantic. Giving your partner their own private time can encourage romance – because they will know that you have made an effort to take their needs into consideration. The keyword here – compromise!

4. Quality Time

It is not the amount of time that you spend together, it is the quality of that time that matters. This is your time to connect – whether it is quiet time over morning coffee, or thirty minutes just before going to bed at night, the idea is to focus on each other. To listen to the other person, to share your successes and your concerns, and to let the other person know that you care about them. Make a conscious resolution to make time for romance!

5. Compromise

Compromise does not necessarily mean that we are giving up anything. Each partner will have their own interests, and should be allowed time to pursue those interests. However, time also need to be set aside for the pursuit of common interests, time that can be spent together. You may have more interests in common than you think. Do you both like wine? The going to a wine tasting class might be an exciting shared experience – as well as leading to a romantic interlude later! Other shared interests might include cooking, sports, dancing … anything that you both enjoy doing, and that will bring you closer.

6. Touch

A very simple concept – touch! Here we are looking at what might be termed “touch with intent”, or “focused touch”.  A kiss on the cheek is nice – but a true kiss sends the message that you a truly drawn to that person, that they are appealing to you. A quick hug is nice – but a long, hearty hug sends the message that you are attracted to that person, that you feel safe within their space, and that you want to be with them.

7. Children

It is very important to arrange “couples time”, time without the children, when the focus is on each other. This can be a regular “night out”, or time specially arranged to celebrate a birthday, a promotion, or some other significant event. This is time to enjoy each other, and reconnect both the passion and the soul in your relationship.

8. Future Vision

It is very easy to get caught up in the day to day responsibilities of life. It is important to take the time to really take a look at what kind of life you are creating. To keep the romance in your life, keep the energy of your relationship moving at high levels. Take the time to talk at regular intervals about what each of you want on a personal level, and what you want for yourselves as a couple. The future that you will have is the one that you create for yourself. Sharing your dreams and goals for the future will help strengthen the bond between the two of you.

9. Taking Care Of Yourself

Your own self image has a lot to do with how you approach romance with your partner. Watch your diet, eat healthy, and encourage your partner to do the same. Take the time to exercise, in whatever form you are most comfortable with (sports, dancing, working out in the gym – these are all good forms of exercise). You will feel good about yourself, and you will release pent up stress from your muscles. A parting thought – dress for romance! Dress in a manner that is appealing to your partner. For some people that might be heels and a beautiful dress, for others it might be jeans and a comfortable top. Compliment your partner when they wear something that ignites thoughts of romance in you. You may well find romance working itself into your life more and more!

10. Bedroom

The environment of your bedroom should feel comfortable for both partners – and it should be TV free! You do not need the TV as a third party in your relationship. The TV in a very real way takes your partners attention away from you – and takes your attention away from them! Your bedroom should reflect calmness and serenity. It should be a safe haven from the world, for both of you. Scented candles, soft colors, sensual textures – these will go a long way to encouraging romance in your relationship.

Our relationships bring us our greatest joy in life, but they can also bring us our greatest sorrow. Breaking up with someone brings us a great deal of emotional pain, and that pain is kept alive when we are in a place that we really want the person that we broke up with to come back into our life. Our thoughts constantly revolve around "Is He/She coming back?"

How can we break the spiral of hope and despair that wishing for someone to come back into our lives brings to us? The first thing that we need to do is to get a second opinion on our relationship - a fresh look at the situation, and the issues involved. Your psychic reading will do that for you - it will help you to form a clear picture of your current situation, of the past of this situation (how your relationship developed into its current state), as well as what you can expect in the near future.

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