Top Ten Ways To Build Self-Esteem

1. Self-Esteem Is An Internal Quality

Recognize that self-esteem is an internal quality – it is not based on anything that is external to us. Recognize your own strengths, and honor them.

2. Find Someone To Talk To

Find someone to discuss your issues with … someone that is willing to give you some feedback. If there is literally no one that you feel that you can talk to, start a personal journal. Review your journal two or more times a week. In this manner you will see your own progress, the how and why of things that are in your life, and get a fresh perspective on your options. Make notes to yourself as you review previous entries. You then become a “third person” in your own life, and have the ability to give yourself your own “second opinion”.

3. Leave Your Past In The Past

Acknowledge your mistakes, learn from them, and move on. Nothing is resolved by continuing to beat up on yourself.

4. Become Financially Independent

Finances may not be a core issue for you, but taking charge of your own finances, or taking a more active part in joint finances, will give you a sense of accomplishment that boosts your self-esteem in a big way.

5. Start A Personal Journal

Start a personal journal – and keep it in a place where no one else will find it. This is your place to vent, to say the things that you cannot say to someone in person, or to voice opinions that need to remain private. You take a great deal of stress out of your life by allowing yourself to vent in a journal.

6. Become A Co-Creator

We are all co-creators of our own life. The decisions that we make, based on past life experiences, are what creates our future. Working with whatever we consider to be the Divine in our life, we can use our own input in magical ways. Our self-esteem goes up exponentially when we realize the power that we have over ourselves.

7. Be Aware Of Your thoughts

Negative thoughts have the ability to take away our self-esteem.  When a negative thought occurs, ask yourself where it comes from. If the thought is not originating from within you, if it is coming from someone else in your life, acknowledge it and send it back to them. If the negative thought is “self imposed”, look at why you are telling yourself this. Once you find the cause of the thought, you can release it and replace it with a more positive one. It may take several times of replacing a thought before it leaves completely, but it will leave.

8. Find Your Joy

Do the things in life that bring you joy. Think back to the times that went well, the times that were successful. What do they have in common? These are the thigns that bring you joy. In your career, and in your personal life, do the tings that bring you joy, and that are supportive of you and your goals.

9. Act On Your Dreams

Allow yourself to dream BIG dreams … and then allow yourself to act on them.

10. Know Your Own Worth

Choose to value yourself as a person. Know that your life experiences have value, know that your opinions have value. Know that you have something to give to others. If you follow the path that brings your heart its greatest joy, you will attract like people, and you will be using your strengths, your skills and abilities, to their best advantage.