How To Bring Harmony To Your Relationships

Every relationship brings to it the wants and needs (and agenda’s!) of both parties. At any given moment, we are each trying to balance any number of relationships – familial, romantic, friendship, business – and sometimes this all becomes a bit overwhelming! What are we all basically looking for in relationship? Harmony – that sense of peace that allows us to function at our best, to stay grounded and centered, to make informed decisions and take positive, supportive actions.

Every relationship needs to have a level of commitment, as well as a room for both individuals to row as individuals. Each person needs to have a sense of respect for themselves, as well as for the other person. Effort needs to be placed on maintaining a high level of communication – referring to the quality of the communication, rather than the quantity! Make sure that you understand what the other person is trying to say, and that they understand what you are trying to say.

Listen with compassion – listen with your heart. Listen to the words being spoken – as well as the words not being spoken.  Try to place yourself in the other person’s shoes, and see the issue from their perspective.

Be grateful for that which is supportive in the relationship, and let the other person know that. Define that which is not supportive, and work with the other person to either release it, or redefine it. Do not allow emotions from past disagreements, or actions, act as clutter in the relationship in its present form. Remain grounded and centered in the present.

Look at where you are expending time and energy in your relationship. Are you spinning your wheels? Are you not sure where you stand? Your time and energy needs to go to whatever is supportive of yourself, and your relationship. Relationships need to grow as the individuals within them grow. Find common interests, and spend some time together on them. Be willing to spend time with the other person on what interests them, and ask the same of them for what interests you.

Focus on that which is positive and supportive in your relationship. Identify that which needs work, and address it. Bring in the tool of compassion to heal and grow. Expect the best, and do not settle for less. Hold in your mind a visualization of what your relationship can be, and focus your intent on taking it there. Be a co-creator of your own relationship life!