Top Ten Ways To Attract The Perfect Partner

1. Define Yourself

Understand what strengths you bring to a relationship. Take out a piece of paper, and write them down. Do you communicate well? Are you well organized? Do you have a sense of humor? Are you a good listener? Have you defined your own personal sacred boundaries? Do you know where you want to be three months, six months, and one year from now? Are you career oriented? Are you family oriented? What place do you see children holding in your life? What do you need from a relationship?

2. Define Your Partner

Write down the qualities that you need in a partner. What do they look like physically? What is their emotional makeup?  What is their spiritual makeup? Should they have a sense of humor? How do they view their finances? How do they feel about children? Are they career oriented? Are they family oriented?

3. Visualize Your Perfect Relationship

Before you go to bed at night, spend 5-10 minutes seeing yourself interacting with your perfect partner. What are you doing together? How do they make you feel? Are you happy? Are you anxious? What you are doing here is sending a message out to universe that you are open to relationship, and that this is the type of relationship that you would like to draw to you.

4. Be Aware

Listen to your intuition. Be aware of the opportunities for meeting people around you. Be open to other people, and present yourself as you are, not as how you want others to see you. Go back and reread your definition of who you are as a person. Walk the talk of who that person is, because they have a great deal to offer a potential date!

5. Establishing A Personal Connection

Okay, you have met someone that you might be interested in. How can you establish a connection with that person, a sense of rapport that will carry you forward? Listen with compassion. Listen with your heart, listen with caring, and make the other person feel as if they matter. Show respect for them, and encourage give and take in your relationship with them. You do not always have to agree with the other person … just show respect for their opinion.

6. Recognizing Feelings

How do you know how you really feel about someone? Is it infatuation, or is it true love? Infatuation is all about the externals. Ask yourself how you would feel about this person if they had nothing … if all they had to offer you was themselves. Would you still want them in your life? If your answer is yes, then the feeling that you have for them is coming from your heart, and is true love. If what they are without any external trappings is not enough, then more than likely you are infatuated, and the relationship will not last.

7. Building Trust

Act in a manner that encourages people to trust you. Make specific, rather than vague, statements. Let the other person know when something is going on in your life. If you need space, let them know why. Don’t make life a guessing game.

8. Walk Your Talk

Make sure that your physical actions match your verbal communications. It doesn’t matter how populated an area you live in, whatever you are trying to hide will come back to haunt you. Taken one step further – be aware of your tone, eye contact, and body language – these should all match the message that you are trying to send.

9. Define Your Perfect Life

Just as you defined your perfect partner, write down how your life would be if your perfect partner were there. What would your goals be? How would you be spending your time? What activities would you be involved in? How would you feel about yourself?

10. Let Your Needs Be Known

Allow the other person to know who you are, and what makes you tick. This is the number one way to build trust in a relationship. Encourage the other person to make their needs known. In doing so, you validate them as an individual. Recognize that there are three “people” in every relationship – you, your partner, and the energy of the two of you together.