Top Ten Ways To Bring The Romance Back Into Your Relationship

1. Doing The Little Things

After two people have been together for a period of time, they can tend to take each other for granted. The first step towards bringing romance back into your relationship is to find little ways to tell the other person that you love them. A hug here, a kiss there, an unexpected note left on a pillow, and taking the time to say the magic words “I love you” when the other person least expects it.

2. Bring The Passion Back

Bringing the passion back into a relationship takes a conscious effort. Schedule time to be together – whether you have a candle-lit dinner, or a picnic in the middle of the living room. Burn scented candles, take a bubble bath together, give each other a massage with scented oils, watch an erotic movie … do whatever leaves the sameness of daily life behind and connects you as a couple to your five senses.

3. Be Creative

Sometimes a single flower can say more than a dozen roses. Sometimes a ticket to a ball game can mean more than a night out on the town. Take the time to find out what your partner considers romantic – and recognize that this may not be the same thing that you consider romantic. Giving your partner their own private time can encourage romance – because they will know that you have made an effort to take their needs into consideration. The keyword here – compromise!

4. Quality Time

It is not the amount of time that you spend together, it is the quality of that time that matters. This is your time to connect – whether it is quiet time over morning coffee, or thirty minutes just before going to bed at night, the idea is to focus on each other. To listen to the other person, to share your successes and your concerns, and to let the other person know that you care about them. Make a conscious resolution to make time for romance!

5. Compromise

Compromise does not necessarily mean that we are giving up anything. Each partner will have their own interests, and should be allowed time to pursue those interests. However, time also need to be set aside for the pursuit of common interests, time that can be spent together. You may have more interests in common than you think. Do you both like wine? The going to a wine tasting class might be an exciting shared experience – as well as leading to a romantic interlude later! Other shared interests might include cooking, sports, dancing … anything that you both enjoy doing, and that will bring you closer.

6. Touch

A very simple concept – touch! Here we are looking at what might be termed “touch with intent”, or “focused touch”.  A kiss on the cheek is nice – but a true kiss sends the message that you a truly drawn to that person, that they are appealing to you. A quick hug is nice – but a long, hearty hug sends the message that you are attracted to that person, that you feel safe within their space, and that you want to be with them.

7. Children

It is very important to arrange “couples time”, time without the children, when the focus is on each other. This can be a regular “night out”, or time specially arranged to celebrate a birthday, a promotion, or some other significant event. This is time to enjoy each other, and reconnect both the passion and the soul in your relationship.

8. Future Vision

It is very easy to get caught up in the day to day responsibilities of life. It is important to take the time to really take a look at what kind of life you are creating. To keep the romance in your life, keep the energy of your relationship moving at high levels. Take the time to talk at regular intervals about what each of you want on a personal level, and what you want for yourselves as a couple. The future that you will have is the one that you create for yourself. Sharing your dreams and goals for the future will help strengthen the bond between the two of you.

9. Taking Care Of Yourself

Your own self image has a lot to do with how you approach romance with your partner. Watch your diet, eat healthy, and encourage your partner to do the same. Take the time to exercise, in whatever form you are most comfortable with (sports, dancing, working out in the gym – these are all good forms of exercise). You will feel good about yourself, and you will release pent up stress from your muscles. A parting thought – dress for romance! Dress in a manner that is appealing to your partner. For some people that might be heels and a beautiful dress, for others it might be jeans and a comfortable top. Compliment your partner when they wear something that ignites thoughts of romance in you. You may well find romance working itself into your life more and more!

10. Bedroom

The environment of your bedroom should feel comfortable for both partners – and it should be TV free! You do not need the TV as a third party in your relationship. The TV in a very real way takes your partners attention away from you – and takes your attention away from them! Your bedroom should reflect calmness and serenity. It should be a safe haven from the world, for both of you. Scented candles, soft colors, sensual textures – these will go a long way to encouraging romance in your relationship.